Bitterness and Resentment

The tagline for this blog was, for a long time, ‘Contains Bitterness and Resentment’. I even had a t-shirt to match. For a long time I did. I was bitter, and I was resentful; of my father, of my brother, of my ex-girlfriend. Of my employer, people more successful than I, moneyed people, popular people, smart people and funny people. But all that changed. I’m not sure when it changed, but the manifestation of that change was mostly me being kinder to myself and learning how to not give a crap about how other people felt about me. Not everyone will li- Look, someone already said it better:

“Check this out: when people don’t like you, nothing actually happens. The world does not end. You don’t feel them breathing down your neck. In fact, the more you ignore them and just go about your business, the better off you are.”
 – The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck

I read that post a long time ago and it really resonated with me. It’s so true. We’re infinitesimal compared to the population of the planet. 99.99% of the world doesn’t even know we exist. Those who do not like us are irrelevant and inconsequential.

So I guess I should come to the purpose of this post. I’m aware that people don’t like me. I’m told that some people do not care very much for me at all. I’m informed that some people are hanging onto their bitterness and resentment towards me; carrying it around with them and allowing it to infect their lives both on and off line. So I’m writing this to tell you to get over it. Get over me. Hate is baggage, bitterness will eat you up. The people you surround yourself with will see it and it will in turn affect them. It will affect their opinion of you. The only person you’re hurting by holding onto resentment is you. It really doesn’t matter.

“The Buddha compared holding onto anger to grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You, of course, are the one who gets burned.”

Lots of love x


4 thoughts on “Bitterness and Resentment

  1. This is very true, and something I need to learn myself. I’ve always cared too much what people think of me – want desperately to be liked. But, not everyone is going to like me, however hard I try, and sometimes I try too hard.
    I need to let go of that, and concentrate on those that matter, just be me and if someone doesnt like that, well then, that’s their issue not mine.

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